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Over the past 25 years of doing consultations with clients about relationships, I have come to understand that our ideas and beliefs about them morph and change as fast as the latest TV primetime lineup. Years ago, many of the problems that involved relationships were more security based. Women wanted a man to take care of them and provide them with security. Conversely, men wanted women to take care of them as well, but usually in the role of housekeeper and mother.
The good news is that as women have become more independent and self-reliant (and thankfully laws have been changed to allow that), the motivations behind relationships have changed as well. The one thing that has not changed is that many people (not all) enter into relationships with a hidden agenda.
Last week, I was speaking to a client of mine that I have consulted with a few times. She continues to go through problems with her relationship and despite her best efforts she is always fearful that he is going to be unfaithful. She becomes very anxious and heartbroken whenever he does not respond to her texts immediately and then is plagued with negative thoughts that paralyze her for days. She has a really difficult time understanding why he does not want engagement or marriage, and she feels it is because he does not feel that she is the right one. I asked her what she would like to have happen in this relationship and her response was, “I want him to marry me! All of my friends are married and I just want to be like them.” Meanwhile, her boyfriend has just started a business after being laid off in 2011 and is trying to establish himself once again. He has very little time to devote to giving her more in the relationship, and has informed her that he does not feel that he can take on the “responsibility” of marriage at this time. However, the consultation chart I was used showed that he felt pressured by her and this was the reason for his distancing. He actually wants the relationship, but he wants to build a foundation to be able to manage the relationship correctly. Unfortunately, giving him time to be ready to fully engage in a marriage is not what she is looking for. The fact is she has entered the relationship with an agenda because she wants to feel more accepted within her social circle.
So, this got me thinking about relationship struggles in general. How many times do we enter into relationships (this can be any relationship) with a hidden agenda? Despite what our partners tell us, do we often feel that we can change the situation in order to get what we want. When my client first got involved with her boyfriend, she was perfectly fine with him building a new business. Yet, when it started to interfere with her objective, she began to take things personally. This has led to a lot of agonizing pain for her that has her constantly questioning the relationships viability.
On Thursday, Venus in Capricorn will square Mars in Libra. This aspect is notorious for bringing “hidden agendas” out of their closet, and can cause difficulties in relationships. Any form of relationship tension will be tested under this aspect. The good news is that if you are unconscious about these “hidden agendas”, then they will rise to the surface so that you can deal with them constructively rather than infusing your relationship with toxic poisons.
Take some time out to really get clear about your objective in your relationships. This may mean that you have to ask yourself some hard questions including whether or not your relationship is giving you what you want and need at this point in your life. For example, it is not wrong to want to get married. It is not productive to force someone that is not ready for martial commitment to be ready when you want them to be. In addition, you may need to have serious discussions (be careful though because this aspect can cause intense arguments) about your relationships to make sure everyone is on the same page. However, when we get to the roots of what we really want and need we can begin to make decisions and choices that are more productive to achieve what we really desire in the future.
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